I'm so sorry about Kitty. I read your update too, so I'll be thinking about both of you on Wed.
FWIW, I never feel "sparks" for guys until I've known them for a good while. With Thor, I knew him for over a year before I was attracted to him. And even now, I don't find myself thinking someone is attractive until I've really gotten to know them. If you enjoy him as a person spend time with him. The whole, "head-over-heels" love thing is very over-rated IMO because it's just not sustainable and we create false expectations because of that. If nothing else, enjoy the friendship. We can all use more of that.
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FWIW, I never feel "sparks" for guys until I've known them for a good while. With Thor, I knew him for over a year before I was attracted to him. And even now, I don't find myself thinking someone is attractive until I've really gotten to know them. If you enjoy him as a person spend time with him. The whole, "head-over-heels" love thing is very over-rated IMO because it's just not sustainable and we create false expectations because of that. If nothing else, enjoy the friendship. We can all use more of that.